Its a love Hate Relationship!!


I would love to hate it. I would also hate to love it.

It’s everywhere right now, Buy this, get that.

Candy here, Flowers there, Edible bouquets of fruit arranged to look like flowers.

There are so many expectations, so many standards that its just not possible to live up to them.

Yes I am talking out the one day of the year, where everyone gets all mushy and lovey dovey. Where girls expect these elaborates gifts from their boyfriends, fiance`s or their husbands.

All this money is spent on candy and for what? To gain a few extra pounds so our significant other can hear us complain abut being fat?

Florist spend hundreds of hours getting these bouquets of roses ready to deliver, ship and show up on work desks all over the country, just so they can be a symbol of someones “love” for us?

You want to give me this beautiful creation, in a glass Vase that i get to look at for a week before it withers away and dies as a symbol of your “undying ” love? No.

Dinner, Dinner and a movie seems like a safe idea yes? You can get all dressed up, go to a fancy restaurant, let her order whatever she wants (no complaining about getting fat there). A nice quiet dinner followed by a 7:00 movie… right ?

WRONG!! It is Valentines Day. If you didn’t make reservations somewhere, you aren’t getting in. And if you are lucky enough to get in somewhere, you have already been waiting for a table for over an hour. Your server is exhausted because she is going on hour 7 of her shift with out a break and the previous 4 tales didn’t leave a tip. The kitchen takes forever to get your food cooked because lets face it…. they have at least 100 other people to cook for at that exact same moment. Ohh and your just got your main course and the movie started 5 minutes ago…

So here is some advice from a married woman of over 7 years, and a current waitress… Go rent a few movies, make a homemade pizza together cuddle on the couch and enjoy your night of just being together. Don’t worry about well she got this or he bought her that! Good for them, but will they really remember how the caviar tasted that night? Or will they remember making pizza dough together and getting into a flour fight? (trust me its the flour fight :))

Valentines day is just a marketing ploy to get people to spend  money to show someone else how much they love them. Do it every day of the year. A simple I love you, a hug, or a kiss on the forehead will usually suffice.

So I lied. its not a love hate relationship with Valentines day. Its a hate hate relationship, and my husband is perfectly ok with that.


7 thoughts on “Its a love Hate Relationship!!

  1. gh

    Look at you, taking a stand and using your voice to get everyone’s attention and say something you have thought a lot about. I really like the thinking here – it’s one of those things that is not necessarily what people want to hear but what they definitely need to hear. It takes guts and a wise perspective to say such things. Glad you have guts and wisdom to share.

  2. Lauren Applegate

    I enjoyed reading your thoughts on Valentines Day. Although I wouldn’t say that I hate the holiday – I do think it is a little bit silly. My boyfriend and I actually spent the night in, just hanging out and watching movies. I definitely see where you are coming from and would be anxious to hear the opinions of others on this holiday.

  3. I like Valentines’s Day because I love every holiday, but I agree with you that staying in and cooking dinner together is the way to go! I believe it’s the time you spend with the ones you love and the memories you make that matter, not the flowers, candy and all the other gifts that people give and receive on Valentine’s Day. I agree that we should express our love for one another every day of the year anyway; it’s sad that some people need a holiday in order to show their love for someone.

  4. This is a post that I can really relate to. While I do enjoy buying my girlfriend flowers and a romantic card to express my love for her on Valentine’s Day, I firmly believe that that love should be expressed to the fullest each and every day of the year as well. Often times, couples get so caught up in what they believe Valentine’s Day should be all about when, like you said, if it should be about one thing in particular, it is the quality time you spend with your loved one. That, right there, is what it is all about to me.

  5. I hate V-day.
    I think it’s stupid. I actually didn’t thangout with my boyfriend a few weeks ago on that day because I had to work as well. I have never celebrated it and I do not have intentions on it. Why treat that day any different than any other day. Love is unconditional, so you shouldn’t love someone a lot one day out of the year. You shouldn’t show your appreciation one day out of the year either, but everyday.

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